Mr Richard Palmer
Member Status: Accredited
Member No: NCS14-00736
I specialise in helping young adults to be happy and confident by overcoming anxiety.
I think I’m a lot like you. I grew up believing that I wasn’t good enough. All I wanted was to be confident, to feel happy, to be able to stand up for myself and to not doubt myself. In essence, I wanted to not be scared of being me.
My greatest fear was that I would spend the rest of my life continuing to feel anxious and lonely, avoiding anything and everything that would show me up for being weird, different or incapable. I didn’t make many friends; I would avoid going to busy places and I would never do anything that might upset someone else.
My self-esteem was virtually non-existent, I had no confidence to be me and to do what I wanted. I would question everything that I thought and did and became incredibly self-critical. This led to me feeling anxious and depressed, not enjoying life at all.
My parents were worried about me and eventually convinced me to see a doctor. I was diagnosed with depression and started on antidepressants. They helped me to feel less bad (I wouldn’t say that they helped me to feel happier), but they didn’t help to resolve the problem.
Next, I tried CBT with the NHS. The person who assessed me believed that the problem was anxiety and so I had 8 sessions of CBT to learn how to not be anxious. Just like with the antidepressants, the CBT did help a little bit but I only felt mildly better because the anxiety was just a symptom of a much deeper problem.
Over and over again it felt like other people were telling me how I felt and why I was wrong for feeling that way. I was so fed up with feeling how I felt and not receiving the help that I needed that I decided to try to figure out the solution on my own.
I started learning psychology and researching things that might help me. I tested everything that I came across to see if it would help and some of it did! I spent the next four years training as a counsellor and refining what I was practising so that I could use it to help my clients.
So, why am I telling you this? Because I know how frustrating it is to be a prisoner of your own thoughts and to not be understood by other people. I was fed up of how difficult it was to get help that actually helped when there are some fairly easy solutions. I don’t want you to spend the rest of your life feeling like you do now, I want you to spend the rest of your life loving who you are!
- Qualifications & ExperienceI have completed 4 years of counselling training, graduating with a Level 5 Diploma in Counselling Practice.
I have since undertaken extensive training in Couple's Counselling as well as on going training in various approaches to counselling.
- What I can help with
- Abuse – Emotional, Physical, Sexual
- Addiction (e.g. Alcohol, Computer games, Drugs, Food, Gambling, Sex, Smoking)
- Assertiveness / Self-confidence / Self-esteem
- Bereavement / Loss
- Divorce & Separation
- Eating disorders
- Gender identity
- Generally unhappy with your life
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Sexuality Identity
- Shyness / Social Phobia
- Suicidal feelings
- Violence / Victim support
- Languages Spoken